I just finished reading the book Nice Girls Don't Change the World loaned to me by my sister who got it from her husband who purchased it for her at a conference who got it from the Publisher who got it from Lynne Hybels who got it from God.
This is a very short book that basically details Lynne's spiritual life and how she was always a "nice girl" and felt that she always had to sacrifice herself to meet other's needs and do a lot of "Christian " things to earn God's love and how she eventually came to the realization that this was not God at all and not at all what He wanted her to be. Some of the book reminded me of myself, and thankfully some of it didn't too.
If year after year our lives are consumed with activities we've been neither gifted nor impassioned to do, and we never have a chance to slide into the sweet spot of giving out of our true self, we pay a higher price in ministry than God is asking us to pay. And the saddest thing is, when we allow this to happen, nobody wins.
I have been involved in both sides of the spectrum on this. How amazing it was realize (only as an adult basically) that ministry can actually be fun! Not that I was always miserable, but I tend to fall into the thinking that if something is fun or enjoyable, it probably isn't what I should be doing. That sounds sadder than I meant for it too, but I know what I mean.
Then I came face to face with the realization that disappointing people is the greatest fear of the nice girl.
I was embarrassed to realize that minus tornadoes, disappointing people is probably one of my biggest fears. That probably isn't healthy...
And now onto Lynne's definition of a dangerous woman.
- A woman who acknowledges her power to change, and grow, and be radically alive for God
- A healer of wounds and a righter of wrongs
- A woman who weeps with those who weep, and speaks for those who cannot speak for themselves
- A woman who cherishes children, embraces the elderly, and empowers the poor
- A woman who prays deeply and teaches wisely
- A woman who sing songs of joy and talks down fear
- A woman who never hesitates to let passion push her, conviction compel her, and righteous anger energize her
- A woman who strikes fear into all that is unjust and evil in the world
- A woman who dismantles abusive systems and silences lies with the truth
- A woman who overflows with goodness in the name of God and by the power of Jesus. And in that name, and by that power can change the world
Ok, I'd like to be her!!
P.S. Thanks Becky, I will return your book next week.